What Kind of Life Do You Want: A Midlife Crisis Exercise I want a comfortable life. I want air-conditioning when it's hot and I want hot water in my shower and I want soft pillows on my bed. I want a life of community. I want to volunteer at the food pantry and sing in the church choir and serve on a municipal parks board. I want a life of connection. I want to be a healthy, safe mother to my son and a support to my partner and I want strong relationships with my family of origin. I want a life of wellness. I want to get enough sleep and eat enough vegetables and drink enough water and move my body in ways that feel good. I want a life of growth. I want to learn new things and visit new places and learn new skills.